Thursday, December 28, 2017

A little bit of Tara Brach in my life

A little bit of Tara by my side
A little bit of Tara is all I need
A little bit of Tara is what I see
A little bit of Tara in the sun
A little bit of Tara all night long*

This is one of Tara Brach's talks that I like to listen to over and over again. It is about relating to ourselves and rest of the world, which is all connected. Each times I listen to it something she says impacts me in a new way.

Maybe as you contemplate what your next year might look like, you might appreciate listening to this talk and others of hers. Language alert: She uses words and discusses concepts that are not often used in common conversation: homecoming, compassion, kindness, making space, Buddah, mindfulness, refuge.



Bonus for me: One of her stories, it comes toward the end, is about a photojournalist and brushes up against the power of photography. Yea!

Thank you, Tara Brach. You've been a friend to me.
May you be happy. May you be safe. May you be prosperous.
May you stay curious, creative and courageous.

*Tip of the hat to Lou Bega, Damaso Perez Prado and Zippy Davids for having written such a fun song and my apology to them for me having my way with their Mambo #5.

Monday, December 18, 2017

Happy Christmas, Holiday, Challah Day?

by Laura Enright

I think people should wish each other whatever the heck they want.

I grew up Catholic, so Merry Christmas is often second nature for me to say, even though I left Christianity long ago.

The more I started working with the public, the more I changed to Happy Holidays. Why? Because I'm not going to assume what religion the person I'm waiting on is (I have many friends who are of various faiths, including Pagans who were the group that originally booked this time of year in the calendar as a sacred time of worship). To me, it's courteous. Whatever you celebrate, may it be a good one.

We can all enjoy this time of year even if it's only to relish in the notion of New Year's and a new start to things. You know why retailers may stress the Happy Holidays angle with nondenominational decorations and all? Because they're trying to sell to an audience wider than Christians. It's purely capitalistic. You know why kids in public schools attend holiday parties as opposed to Christmas parties? Cause it's public school.

No one is denying a person a manger on the lawn or an angel choir in the window. I still hear songs like "Oh Holy Night" and "Joy to the World" played over store loud speakers (often sung by divas trying way too hard to impress). Someone wishes me "Merry Christmas" I'll return in kind.

Hell, every year Christmas mass is televised (you don't see a solstice ritual on TV--unless someone's using it as a demonic plot point). You don't even have to pay extra for it.

No one is keeping Christians from celebrating their holy day. It's just that the seasonal pool has been opened for everyone to enjoy and there are those Christians who resent that. So they've manufactured this phony "war on Christmas".

Which says more about them then it does about those simply trying to include everyone by wishing people "Happy Holidays!"
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In response to me posting a video from a Jesuit, and someone else posting one by a Jew, which both discuss the "proper" greeting for this time of year, Laura replied with the above. Watch the videos. They will surely give you additional food for thought about the meaning of the season and how we treat each other.
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I don't think I've met Laura Enright in real life...yet. Rumor has it she was born in Chicago, went to Maine South High School and continues to lurk around Park Ridge. Her first book, "Chicago's Most Wanted: The Top Ten Book of Murderous Mobsters, Midway Monsters and Windy City Oddities" was published in 2005. She followed this up in 2010 with "Vampire's Most Wanted: The Top Ten Book of Bloodthirsty Biters, Stake-wielding Slayers and Other Undead Oddities". "To Touch the Sun," the first book in her Chicago Vampire Series, was released in February, 2014, followed up by "Ujaali". Then in 2016 her dragon novel "Court of the Five Tribes" came out. Supposedly she's won all sorts of awards and prizes, but doesn't want to brag, because she is at heart a humble and unassuming person despite quite possibly being the greatest writer that has ever lived.

Thursday, September 21, 2017

That time it got really real on CSPAN: Challenging a racist mindset

You probably missed it, but it was great television.

Last summer a C-SPAN caller asked Heather McGhee, the president of Demos, a progressive public policy organization that advocates for equality, how to stop being prejudiced.

How many of us could be so brave to talk about something about ourselves that bothers us and ask for help with it in such a public way?



The Washington Post talked to Ms. McGhee about it.

This summer Garry Civitello called back to share how that exchange with Ms. McGhee changed him.

There's more conversation about the conversation on Upworthy.

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Tips for taking care of yourself, inside and out.

by Melissa Engle


What is your body’s largest organ? No, it’s not your gluteus maximus (and that is a muscle, not an organ anyway). It’s your skin.

True fact: Sixty percent of what we put on our skin is absorbed into our bodies. If you care about your health, it’s worth paying attention to what substances you’re using on your face and the rest of your body.

It can be daunting to read the product labels and understand what you’re looking at, so, here’s some clues about finding toxin-free, good for you (and good for the earth) products.

Vegan certified: These are products not tested on animals and not using animal products or by-products. (Examples of animal product/by-products include tallow, which is rendered animal fat, and lanolin, which is sheep sweat) [1]


Anti-aging: One cause of accelerated aging is use of products containing mineral oil (or you may have seen it listed as petroleum on some labels). Ahhh, mineral oil. It sounds like a natural ingredient, doesn’t it? Unfortunately, it’s a derivative of crude oil.

“Mineral oil is a colorless and odorless oil that’s made from petroleum. It's a by-product from the distillation of petroleum to produce gasoline. It’s long been used as a common ingredient in lotions, creams, ointments and cosmetics. Mineral oil is considered ‘comedogenic’, which means it can clog your pores and increase the risk of acne and blackheads.” [2]

“Petroleum and mineral oil are ‘occlusive’ agents, which means they seal off the skin from air, water or anything else getting in (or out). Wherever they're applied, they form an invisible film on the surface that blocks the pores and the skin's natural respiration process. If you want a safe moisturizing lotion, look for ingredients like coconut oil, olive oil, jojoba oil, vitamin E, shea butter, cocoa butter.” [3]

Another aging agent is the sun. It can cause all sorts of skin damage — wrinkles, spider veins, fine lines, discoloration, sun/age spots, so be sure your daily moisturizer has an SPF of 20 to stay protected – even in the winter!

“The sun is responsible for the vast majority of visible aging, according to new research—another reason to slather on the sun screen all year round. UV rays accounted for 80 percent of skin aging, including wrinkles, in a study of almost 300 women—half sun-worshippers and half shy of the sun. The study also found that a two percent increase in skin damage ages a face by three years.” [4]

Have a teenaged girl in your life? Here’s something to think about.

Environmental Working Group (EWG) found that adolescent girls’ bodies are contaminated with chemicals commonly used in cosmetics and body care products.

“In fact, we detected 16 potentially toxic chemicals—phthalates, triclosan, parabens, and musks—in blood and urine samples from 20 teen girls. Studies link these chemicals to potential health effects, including cancer and hormone disruption. To make matters worse, teens may be particularly sensitive to exposure to hormone-disrupting chemicals, given the complex role they play during puberty, precisely when girls typically experiment with an increasing number and variety of body care products. When we surveyed them, our teen study participants reported using an average of 17 personal care products each day, 40 percent more than an adult woman.” [1]

Skincare and cosmetic regulations: To make it easy on yourself, find a manufacturer that adheres to the EU regulations, which are stricter than U.S. standards.

“The European Union has banned over 1,300 chemicals found in cosmetics. The FDA has only banned 8 and restricted 3.

[In the U.S.] it’s a free market and you don’t have to do anything—no safety testing required—until there is a problem. And the issue is, a lot of these health impacts are long-term. If someone develops breast cancer in 20 years, linking that to the aluminum zirconium in my deodorant can be tough.

We don’t know how these ingredients are interacting when they come together. The average woman puts 515 synthetic chemicals on her body every single day without even knowing.” [5]

Arbonne International—provider of skincare, hair, makeup, bath and body, and nutritional products—is all about ‘Pure, Safe & Beneficial’. [6]

Its products are vegan and kosher certified, free of gluten, mineral oil, parabens, and we adhere to the EU standards.

My goal is to help you find the highest quality and safest products for you and your family. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and deserves to be well cared for. This is a good place to start to make a move towards cleaner, toxin-free products. Your skin will thank you!

Here's a little skincare challenge
1.    Look through your bathroom cabinets and makeup bags and toss anything that's expired or contains mineral oil.
2.    If you're not already, find a good daily moisturizer with SPF 20.
3.    Be mindful of lip products—if it goes on your lips, it goes in your mouth.

A version of this post was previously published on by Women Belong.

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Melissa Engle is a Chicago-based mom, actor, voice-over artist, entrepreneur and advocate for moms who suffer from postpartum depression and anxiety.

She has worked in Chicago and across the country with such theaters as Lifeline, Steppenwolf, Chicago Shakespeare, Raven, LiveWire, Oak Park Festival, Shattered Globe, Stage Left, and regionally with Montana Shakespeare in the Parks and Connecticut Repertory Theatre. Melissa's also a fan of baking, watching re-runs of Gilmore Girls, doing yoga with her toddler, and all things health and wellness. With her Arbonne business, she strives to educate women about the toxins in our everyday personal care products, empower women with healthier and more accessible options for themselves and their families and provide the highest level of woman-to-woman customer service possible. 

Saturday, August 26, 2017

FREE: This weekend's Skokie Backlot Bash / Freecycling / Evanston’s Parking Ticket Amnesty / Tuesday's Women’s EmPOWER lunch

On Friday I was on the radio again talking about low cost/no cost opportunities around Chicago's north side and North Shore with Daniel French on WCGO 1590 AM.

Here's some of what I talked about:

Happening annually in August since 2007, Skokie Backlot Bash -- some of it free, some of it requires funds -- includes live music, a carnival, a 5K Run, a children’s stage, an auto show and on Sunday, a pancake breakfast and farmer's market.

FREE movie in Skokie: The Public Enemy,
Skokie Public Library Sunday, noon.

Starring James Cagney Jean Harlow and Joan Blondell, this flick details the violent rise of two young hoodlums through the ranks of the Chicago underworld in the prohibition era. The famous and controversial grapefruit scene comes from this flick. Women's groups rose up in protest over such brutal abuse of a woman on-screen in the 30s.

FREECYCLING on Facebook: Friendly, with simple rules, Evanston IL Free Stuff is a closed Facebook group for folks in and around Evanston who offer free stuff, especially furniture, and those who want it.

There’s another one called Free Community Repurposing - Wilmette / Winnetka / Evanston. It is a public group, but you won’t be added unless you live in or around the Chicago North Shore area.

FREE in Evanston for women in leadership: On Tuesday, August 29, Malik Turley and others at Hip Circle Empowerment Center are hosting a brown-bag EmPOWER lunch for women who are primary decision-makers at work or in the community, in order to encourage connection and support.

AMNESTY for scofflaws in Evanston: Motorists with unpaid parking tickets issued in Evanston have until the end of September to pay up without being charged late fees. After that, those with a bunch of outstanding tickets risk being booted, if they come to Evanston. Why the amnesty? Follow the money.

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Got news about FREE STUFF to be found in and around Chicago's north side, North Shore and northern suburbs?  Tell me more about it via email.

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

We Pray For Children


Author Ilene Cooper read Ina J. Hughs' poem "We Pray for Children at the second annual Family Peace Fest for Hope and Harmony, in Morton Grove, Illinois, August 19, 2017.

We pray for children
who sneak popsicles before supper,
who erase holes in math workbooks,
who can never find their shoes.

And we pray, for those
who stare at photographers from behind barbed wire,
who can't bound down the street in a new pair of sneakers,
who never "counted potatoes,"
who are born in places where we wouldn't be caught dead,
who never go to the circus,
who live in an X-rated world.

We pray for children
who bring us sticky kisses and fistfuls of dandelions,
who sleep with the cat and bury goldfish,
who hug us in a hurry and forget their lunch money,
who squeeze toothpaste all over the sink,
who slurp their soup.

And we pray for those
who never get dessert,
who have no safe blanket to drag behind them,
who watch their parents watch them die,
who can't find any bread to steal,
who don't have any rooms to clean up,
whose pictures aren't on anybody's dresser,
whose monsters are real.

We pray for children
who spend all their allowance before Tuesday,
who throw tantrums in the grocery store and pick at their food,
who like ghost stories,
who shove dirty clothes under the bed,
and never rinse out the tub,
who get visits from the tooth fairy,
who don't like to be kissed in front of the carpool,
who squirm in church or temple and scream in the phone,
whose tears we sometimes laugh at
and whose smiles can make us cry.

And we pray for those
whose nightmares come in the daytime,
who will eat anything,
who have never seen a dentist,
who aren't spoiled by anybody,
who go to bed hungry and cry themselves to sleep,
who live and move, but have no being.

We pray for children
who want to be carried
and for those who must,
for those we never give up on
and for those who don't get a second chance.
For those we smother…
and for those who will grab the hand of anybody
kind enough to offer it.

We pray for children.

Amen


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Source: http://www.appleseeds.org/childpry.htm

Seen at Family Peace Fest for Hope and Harmony 2017




A sweet spirit hung in the air during the Morton Grove's second annual Family Peace Fest for Hope and Harmony, Saturday, August 19, behind the Morton Grove Civic Center and next to the MG Farmers Market.

Weather cooperated.

Neighbors created a (Side)Walk of Peace with chalk drawings.

We folded paper cranes, expressed our wishes on the peace mural, talked, listened, danced and prayed.


Edwina Cowell taught us how to better connect with others.

Former strangers hugged.

Big THANKS to everyone and organization that sponsored and supported it. Organizer are already making plans for next year.

Bushra Amiwala posted some nice pictures up on Facebook, as did founder and chief organizer of the fest, Rev. Elizabeth Jones.

Karie Angell Luc covered the doings for the Morton Grove Champion/Pioneer Press/Chicago Tribune.

Joe Ruffner writes his wish on the traveling peace mural: Find the way out of
FEAR, IGNORANCE & HATE and remember wwe are all one.

St. Luke's pastor Rev. Elizabeth Jones (left) leads prayers.
Muslim Community Center's (and candidate for Cook Co. commissioner)
Bushra Amiwala addresses neighbors, too.


Downers Grove's St. Paul's UCC's pastor Rev. Kirk Moore (left).
Highland Park's Lakeside Congregation for Reform Judaism's Rabbi Isaac Serotta.
​Morton Grove's St. Martha's Fr. Dennis O'Neill talks
about giving up being right in the name of peace.
Spiritual Playdate's Edwina Cowill keynotes the peace fest
under the trees behind the Morton Grove Civic Center.
Edwina Cowell talks about how to better connect with a neighbor.
How are you today? Friends and neighbors looks each other in the eye and asks about the other's well-being,
Susan Van Dusen and her husband and Skokie mayor George Van Dusen were there.

Identity Performing Arts' ​Ginny Ching Yin Lo leads the Peace dancing.
Morton Grove Village Trustees Janine Witko and Connie Travis dance to "It's a Wonderful World".
Neighbor dance to "It's a Wonderful World".

Denise Powers and Vicki Powers dance it up...
...and then exchange contact information.



Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Fresh is best: Storage tips for produce

Eating well can mean many trips to the market for fresh fruits and
vegetables. These storage tips can save you time and money.



For more tips on how to eat healthy, check out
Health Hacks' Facebook page and Twitter feed.

Health Hacks is a healthy eating workshop series created by
Michelle Gillespie and myself. We aim to share with our neighbors
a few things that can help them eat better to feel better
and connect them with source for good food and information.