November Forest Seen

 

November 14, 2018 - Looking south from Dempster Street, Morton Grove.

Finding your do-gooder niche

I'm Karen and I'm a volunteer-holic...and have been one for a long time.

Years ago I enjoyed volunteering at then St. Francis Hospital in Evanston in labor and delivery. It was fascinating to see the healthcare system in action while I was not on the receiving end.

Though not a mother or medico, I taught a lot of new moms about breastfeeding. Fed babies. Diapered them. Charted their input and output. Lots of mom's came in through a clinic. Their English was negligible. I think it is important that parents in the U.S. know enough English to keep their kids safe. For example, knowing the difference between "once" in Spanish and English is important when giving kids medication.

Given that, my next volunteer gig had me working with immigrants through what was then Travelers and Immigrants Aid, now Heartland Alliance. I tutored English as a Second Language. I worked with the fabulous Brian Brady, now the head of the Mikva Challenge. One of my favorite outcomes was working with Luis, who was even shaky in his use of written Spanish. By the time I was done with my tour of service, he was translating for me. 

In the early 90s, I co-founded PICTURE THIS Projects, which in its later years worked with homeless young adults, so the issues and myths around homelessness I am keen on. 

All of this is a preamble to this: Pick your battle(s). If issues around homelessness resonate with you, work on that. Don't feel bad you can't do everything. We all have finite resources of time, cash and brain space. Being a freaking human has its limitations, the gods have explained to me. 

I'm a Rotary club member, aka I'm in an organized group of do-gooders. One Rotarian doesn't like doing the "busy work" (like stuffing backpacks with school supplies), because she feels like that is work for church groups. She wants to do work that few others can do, work she and her peeps are uniquely qualified to do. Another prefers local service project over global ones.

Pick your spot. Find your niche.

For more information about helping the homeless in one way or another, I'd go to The Night Ministry or Chicago Coalition for the Homeless.

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Since the On The Table Evanston dinner in May 2018, I've been pondering new ways to help people find their do-gooder niche.

Here's what I've come up with: Meet the Helpers: an uplifting speakers series

You’re invited to celebrate neighbors who are going above and beyond. These are neighbors who are doing what they can--with what they've got--to help their corner of the world be the best it can be. 

When and where: TBD, early 2019. The first speakers' night is expected to take place in Evanston.

Organized by myself and friends, this speakers' series aims to soothe those who are inflamed by the nature of our times, as well as encourage neighbors with ideas about what needs doing to get going.

The name of this series comes from Fred Rogers’ mom. Mr. Rogers once said when he saw scary things in the news, his mother would say to him, ”Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” He found comfort and hope by recognizing there are so many caring people in this world. These helpers are not just first responders, but our neighbors who've stepped up to help.

Who will be featured? TBD. I'd love your suggestions.

How will this be financed? Partnerships, donations, variable ticket price and by individuals and organizations. This series will launch Spring 2019, if backed.

I'd love to see you at one of the Meet the Helpers speakers nights.
Stand by for dates and places.

August 2019 UPDATE: The Meet the Helpers speakers nights
are on hold for now for a variety of reasons. If you want to
talk to me about getting it back on track, I'm here.

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Calls to Action, Reasons to Believe

Open letter from
Hòa Voscott and Ned Schaub

Dear Friends, Family, Elected Officials, Fellow Residents of the United States,

We imagine that all of you have been watching and reading coverage of the horrors which our country is purposely causing in Texas. Because you are people of goodness, we know that if you are watching, you are agonizing and angry as we are. It is shocking and yet not entirely surprising that our country, under its current administration, has created this humanitarian crisis. We believe that stopping this horror and reuniting the babies, children and parents that are victims of our Nation's ruthless acts -- which are being committed in all of our names and with our tax dollars -- should be a top priority for us all as Americans. A clarion call has now been sounded. We must save these children and families, and save our nation.

You’ve likely also heard good news, news of hope. One of the best qualities of Americans is the desire, the natural reaction, to pitch in and help others. We do it in our own communities, when others across the country need help, and when people in other nations around the globe need it. Now, faced with the horrors that our own government has inflicted on thousands of people from other nations, and within our own country, we are hearing the call. The difference, this time, is obviously that we, as a nation, have caused terror and irreversible damage to children in our own country in a concentrated way in a short amount of time – on our own soil. This is not more important than the fact that what we do this to so many of our own children, gradually, individually – those that live in poverty and violence across our country.

However, yesterday, as news started coming in that hundreds of thousands of Americans have already been giving money and rushing in to provide support, that law firms are committing to help U.S. employees that refuse to do what is immoral and illegal, that religious leaders and leaders of every kind from across our nation are speaking out. What we can do now will not erase the damage that we collectively have done through some of our elected officials, but it means that our spirit is still there.

We respect that everyone will make their own choices about how and whether to be involved and know that some of what follows may be obvious to you, and / or that you may have already found ways to engage. However, in case you’re looking for ways to help, there are good suggestions in the article beneath the text of this email.

Here, in brief, are some of them and a couple of others:

    •    Travel to Texas to volunteer with the organizations that are doing everything they can to help migrants and refugees. For example, if you're willing to travel and you speak Spanish and / or have legal experience you can volunteer with the Texas Civil Rights Project to help with legal intake and interview families.

    •    Donate to organizations working on this crisis and the preservation of our nation.

    •    March in the nation-wide Families Belong Together protest that will be held in cities across the land on June 30th, and in other demonstrations.

    •    Talk calmly, respectfully and clearly with your neighbors, family members and friends, and even those you chat with while waiting in line at the grocery or elsewhere. Of course, it is very important to be careful and follow your instincts about when, where and how to do this. The publishing company McSweeney's offers ideas about approaching supporters of the current administration in their  guide for doing this with loving empathy (PLEASE NOTE: The first strategy listed by McSweeney’s seems to be for the extreme supporter. But, if you read on, you'll get info for more general situations.).

    •    Contact your federal representatives. We have been calling and emailing our elected representatives, and their staff members are answering and glad to get our calls. At a recent meeting in Evanston, our Congresswoman, Jan Schakowsky, urged that we all continue to call and email her, even when we don't believe it will help, or are certain that our representative will do what we believe is right. She said that being able to speak of the numbers of constituents that are communicating with her is critical. If you're not sure who all your representatives are or how to get a hold of them, here's how to find out.

What is obvious also, is that our country is in deep trouble. In so many ways, it is falling before our very eyes and authoritarianism is quickly rising in its place. Protections for all of us, including the most vulnerable among us, are being rescinded, draconian policies are being enacted and much of our government is trying to confuse us about the truth, to gaslight us. The nation's highest elected official is working diligently to align the United States with dictators around the globe, praising them and their power, overlooking and applauding their ruthlessness, removing checks and balances on them that have safeguarded our nation and the rest of the world. At the same time our greatest allies, democracies that have stood with our country through good and bad, are being disrespected and betrayed by us -- and they are determining how to move forward without us.

Please ask yourself why. Is it a high-risk strategy, simply a series of mindless impetuous acts and tantrums, something dark and sinister -- or a combination of all the above? The truth is we just don't fully know, but we do now know with certainty that any of the above is possible. And, we know that any of it could lead to the gradual -- or rapid -- collapse of the United States.

Freedom has slipped through the hands of people from other nations, who believed that it never would or could. We can’t fool ourselves into believing that it could never happen here. To understand one of modern history's most horrible examples of this and to see how horrifically it parallels what is happening in our own nation right now, see this 5.5-minute TED-ed video about the rise of Hitler. Even though all the ingredients Hitler used are not in place here, we urge you to consider what you can do to ensure that our nation is safe from tyranny.

We believe that the time for pretending that it's not so bad or that it will all be just fine has passed -- and we think that sentiments that are purely political and party affiliations are no longer as relevant as they have been. Those are luxuries that we have had because our freedoms and democracy were something we could be certain of. All Americans and our freedoms, democracy, and values are at risk in ways that we have never before seen.

Each of us has our own way of describing what we believe is unique about the American experience -- for better and for worse, and of seeing ourselves in that context. At our house, we've been talking about that and wondering what others would describe. On the positive side of what this nation means to us as a family, is being able to be all the things we (Hòa, Ned and our son Julian) collectively are: gay, straight, Asian, white, Latino, black, biracial, of Vietnamese descent, of European descent, of Mexican and African descent, born in Vietnam, born in the Land of Lincoln, born in California, adopted, survivor of war, refugee, U.S. citizens. It has been possible for us to create a life and to thrive, even though in other places, and during other times in the U.S., it would not have been. There are very few places in the world where this could happen, and only in this nation could it happen exactly as it has here. We want to continue to know the freedoms and acceptance we have, and to do everything we can to ensure that others have it too.

Well before these times, there was already so much work to be done within our own country to achieve peace and justice, eliminate disparities, create equity, protect those most vulnerable among us, and right wrongs. Now, every day that passes brings new tears in the fabric of our nation, attacks on our democracy and acts that diminish the truth, justice, benevolence and the light of freedom and hope that this country has aspired to be and stood for. That light has flickered and dimmed in many ways through the years, but we believe that it remains one of the world's best hopes.

With all our hearts, we ask that you join us during the weeks leading up to this Fourth of July, and well beyond, in pledging to do everything you can to save our nation and get it back to the work of making it better for all of us and of being good and humane neighbors to the rest of the world.

During our entire history, we the people have fought to build this nation, to preserve it and to perfect it. It has continued to have so many flaws, including grave injustices, but we have continued to work toward what it could and should be, and to strive for better. Let's keep doing that -- and moving toward the dream that Martin Luther King, Jr. proclaimed.  As he warned us in his "I Have a Dream" speech, "This is no time to engage in the luxury of cooling off or to take the tranquilizing drug of gradualism."

His words mean so much today about continuing to strive for equality and fairness for all of our own people, and also for those that come here from other parts of the world. Read some of them again: "I say to you today, my friends, so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: 'We hold these truths to be self-evident; that all men [and women and children] are created equal'."

Let's keep responding to his call and remain determined that we will do everything we can to stop inhumane acts inflicted on people from other parts of the world -– and here at home, to stand up to tyranny and to save all that is good about our country.

Let’s not rest until there is safety, equality and justice for all.

 

Ned Schaub (right) chats with fellow Rotarian Gene Servillo
at the Rotary Club of Evanston's lunch at the
International Friendship Garden in Evanston.
[September 2017] Photo by Karen Kring

 

Ned Schaub is a media strategist, reporter and writer. Social justice is the cornerstone of all his work. His activities as an Evanstonian reflect that, too. For the satisfaction of helping tackle some of our community's most pressing needs--and the possibility of seeing me at lunch on Thursdays--he's a member of the Rotary Club of Evanston. He's served on a number of boards and committees, including as board director and president of the San Francisco organization Art with Elders, as a founding advisory committee member for the California State University Institute for Palliative Care, and as a board member and chair of Oakland-based LeaderSpring.

Interfaith Conversation and Iftar Dinner in Morton Grove May 30

This in from St. Luke's pastor Rev. Elizabeth Jones...

I AM EVIDENCE watch party in Evanston April 16

“Testing rape kits sends a fundamental and crucial message to victims of sexual violence: You matter. What happened to you matters. Your case matters."
                                                            -- Mariska Hargitay, activist and actress

 

Neighbors far and wide are invited to a watch party for the award-winning documentary I AM EVIDENCE during its HBO premiere.

This film tells the story of four survivors whose rape kits went untested for years and follows them as they navigate through the criminal justice system and learn how often the system is broken. It reveals the historic nature of how the crime of sexual assault is treated in this country and the positive effects when perpetrators are held accountable and survivors are given an opportunity for healing and justice.

Monday, April 16
6:30 p.m. Doors open
7 p.m. Movie Screening with discussion to follow
at
Evanston Friend’s Fellowship Hall
1010 Greenleaf St.
Evanston

Admission is free, but donations are encouraged.

Says Jason Orloff, co-founder of PriorityDNA: This is a problem we can solve! We are excited to be collaborating with the Joyful Heart Foundation, founded by Mariska Hargitay, dedicated to ending the rape kit backlog. I’m proud of my PriorityDNA co-founder, Dr. Laurie Erickson, for her work to increase access to technical resources so that law enforcement need not prioritize DNA evidence for one crime over another.  We invite you to join us and learn more April 16. 

RSVP to Jason at jjorloff@PriorityDNA.com.

Rotary International's Pathways to Peace presents peace builders working worldwide April 10

Learn more
here. 

 

RSVP
here.

Debra Shore is all in for write-in Cam Davis

This in from Debra Shore...

My friend, Cam Davis, is running for a vacancy on the Metropolitan Water Reclamation District Board in the Democratic primary created by the untimely death of my colleague, Commissioner Tim Bradford.

No one was able to file in time to get on the ballot so the election authorities said there could be a write-in for the Bradford vacancy. The hitch is that Cam needs more than 9000 write-in votes to get on the ballot in November.

Cam Davis is possibly the most qualified candidate to run for MWRD since Lee Botts in 1986. He is a former director of the Alliance for the Great Lakes and was President Obama’s lead on the Great Lakes Restoration Initiative for 7+ years.

He is deeply knowledgeable about Great Lakes issues, would be a strong ally and conservation advocate, and is endorsed by Senator Dick Durbin, Congresswoman Jan Schakowsky, Congressman Mike Quigley, MWRD Commissioners Josina Morita and myself, the Sierra Club, Democratic Party of Oak Park, Northfield Township Dems, 47th Ward, 49th Ward, the Chicago Tribune, Sun-Times and numerous others.

But Cam needs a minimum of 8,075 votes to get on the ballot in November and if he doesn’t reach that goal, Governor Rauner gets to pick! So please share this information with all your friends and neighbors, teammates and colleagues. Suggest they send the instructions to their phone so they will have them at hand when they vote.

Talk to them and tell them to do the write thing: Write in CAM DAVIS for the Bradford Vacancy.

More about Cam Davis via the Chicago Sun-Times here. 

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Writing it is not tricky and Jan Schakowsky explains that here.

Jackson and Jackson: Racial, Economic Politics in Illinois

Joint Statement by Fmr. Congressman Jesse L. Jackson, Jr. & Rev. Jesse L. Jackson, Sr.

Monday, February 12, 2018

USE OF RACIAL POLITICS EXPOSES BOTH REPUBLICANS AND DEMOCRATS IN ILLINOIS

President Donald’s Trump’s former chief political advisor and strategist Steve Bannon said, “If race is the issue, we win.” So we see Trump’s obsession with blaming everything on former President Barack Obama, or attacking Colin Kaepernick, Jemelle Hill, Steph Curry and other African Americans. The only way Republicans can currently win elections is by cheating (e.g., gerrymandering in Wisconsin and Pennsylvania) or using voter suppression tactics (identifying more health care for more Americans, the Affordable Care Act, with race – “Obamacare” – or supporting restrictive voter ID laws, cutbacks in early voting, elimination of same-day on-site voter registration and other voter suppression tactics as in North Carolina and Texas).

Now we see Illinois Governor Bruce Rauner has joined in this racist strategy with his J.B. Pritzker commercial which is an attempt to divide the black community and get African American leaders to attack Pritzker and abandon him.

But what the anti-Pritzker commercial actually reveals is that Democrat J.B. Pritzker was also engaged in playing racial politics to suppress the black vote. At the time of the FBI recorded phone conversation between Mr. Pritzker and Governor Blagojevich, Jesse Jackson, Jr. was not under any federal investigation and was the very popular Congressman for the 2nd Congressional District of Illinois. If Jesse Jackson, Jr. had been the Democratic Senatorial nominee there would have been a huge black and south suburban voter turnout and not just because Jackson was African American.

While Mayor Richard M. Daley and J.B. Pritzker had political and economic interests in hotels in downtown Chicago and by O’Hare Airport, Jesse Jackson, Jr. was focused on the underdeveloped South Suburban communities that were attempting to convince the governor, the mayor and Mr. Pritzker to build an airport in the South Suburbs that would have employed many thousands of workers of all races and genders in new businesses so that the masses of people living in that area might have good jobs, an economic future, a stable and growing tax base to fund good schools, and balanced economic growth in the Chicago metropolitan area.

Unfortunately, like all good Monopoly players, Mr. Pritzker has placed all of his hotels downtown on “Boardwalk” and near O’Hare Airport where rent is high. And if we land on his property we will pay a premium. He has not indicated his support for building the South Suburban Airport or offered a jobs and economic development plan comparable to building the new airport. I gave the airport to Democrats – e.g., Governor Blagojevich and others – who have not indicated they want to build it, and now Republican Governor Bruce Rauner has it. [sic]

Mr. Pritzker has not called to offer Jesse Jackson, Jr. a personal apology, nor has one been sought. However, more than a personal apology, Democrat J.B. Pritzker owes the entire African American community an apology for denigrating Barack Obama, Emil Jones, Jesse White, Rev. Jeremiah Wright, and Jesse Jackson, Jr. in a private FBI recorded conversation that has now become public – and there could be more to come. Mr. Pritzker was playing racial politics in pursuit of his narrow economic interests. The African American community must reject being misused by white politicians in the political game of racial politics by Republicans or Democrats.

https://m.chicagoreader.com/Bleader/archives/2018/02/09/pritzker-the-sneak-disser-might-as-well-have-said-the-n-word

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I found this statement by Jesse Jackson, Sr. and Jesse Jackson, Jr. issued on Facebook. I'm sharing it here, because it is thought-provoking and offers information I'd not heard about until now. I've done no fact-checking to date and am still forming my opinions about assertions made here.

Anne Johnsos on her family, new book and "mommy juice"

I'm a print journalist, a photographer, editor and designer, now getting into podcasting and radio. I have so many friends and colleagues who are veterans in radio and brilliant at what they do. Anne Johnson is one of those. She was one of the first to encourage me as I ventured into a new medium, which I'm forever grateful to her for.

A former TV anchor, former Northwestern professor, former WGN radio producer, Anne has ventured into print .

Anne’s recently published book, POTTY-MOUTHED: Big Thoughts from Little Brains, shares conversations she and her husband have had with their daughters starting when their youngest was about 2 years old.

Constantly curious, I lobbed these questions to Anne and she sent them back with answers.

K: What were your girls’ reactions when they first learned you were documenting what they’d been saying?

A: They had no idea until I started writing the book. For years I typed their words and wonders onto my iPhone, stowing them away for later. Occasionally I posted the most humorous bits to Facebook, but the kids had no idea what Facebook was. It was only after I drafted the manuscript that we all sat down and read through the hundreds of moments. The girls laughed with glee when they realized they were a) funny and b) just a little bit famous.

K: What was it like getting permission from your family to publish this book?

A: When we went through the manuscript, the girls let me know what was OK and what was not. Poop and toots are funny up to a certain age (in my case 100!), but as kids round the corner toward “tweendom,” privacy becomes more important. My oldest also was quick to point out the moments in which my written thoughts were slightly unkind. She told me not to include them because they made me look, well, unkind. And while we all have our “judgy” moments, it’s best not to highlight them. (Note: The conversation we cut had to do with my daughter’s attempt to learn the violin. Anyone who has tried to play the violin knows it’s a slow start. I merely observed that in one of my posts.)

K: How did you pick which of their remarks made it into the book?

A: We chose the ones we considered to be funny, poignant and relevant. Some of my favorite conversations centered on pop culture and were too time-sensitive to last. Think Bieber, Blurred Lines and Daft Punk. Need I say more?

K: Social media has played a part in the way you created this book. Do tell.

A: Without social media there would be no book. The reaction I got to the early posts inspired me to keep recording the girls’ conversations. I loved getting positive feedback from friends and fellow parents. It was a former journalism student of mine who first suggested the book, and the idea gained momentum from there. When I took the plunge to write, I asked my Facebook hive for possible illustrators and reconnected with a friend from college. The idea was to have just a smattering of drawings, but his work was so good, POTTY-MOUTHED became a comic book.

K: Tell me more about “mommy juice”. Must it be Italian or can it be from any region?

A: “Mommy juice” is famously cheap and of low quality. After my husband and I realized our exciting social lives were firmly in the past, we resorted to bulk buying wine from Trader Joe’s. Turns out Two Buck Chuck isn’t so bad.

K: You protect your girls’ privacy, but they have been going to some of your book events. How are they dealing with the attention they are getting?

A: They seem to enjoy it, but I’m aware of the potential pitfalls. Right now they really want to read some of their own funny moments. That might change as they get older. The important thing is: They approved the content, so they aren’t surprised. Last night at a reading, some of the toot jokes made my older daughter “facepalm,” but she laughed because she knows the actions of a 4-year-old do not draw a straight line to the 11-year-old of today. Note: I also regularly add money to the therapy jar.

K: Are you still documenting the nuttier conversations you have with your girls? Can we expect a sequel?

A: A sequel is ready and waiting if this book is successful. I have hundreds more moments to share, and many of them are funnier and smarter than the current book because the girls are older. I still write down and share some current conversations, but less frequently. Now that the girls know what I’m doing, they occasionally ask me to write down what they say, and that’s too meta for me. Also: No matter how funny puberty might be, it’s just too personal. I value my daughters’ trust too much to cross that line.

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YOU'RE INVITED: Come meet Anne. I'm the impresario for a rare performance by Anne and radio colleague Charlie Meyerson. They'll share some of the most hilarious utterances by her daughters and his sons with friends and strangers on Thursday, February 22. We'd love to see you there in the flesh. Cyberspace is only fun for a while. Details are up on Facebook and online here and here.

Mystery revealed: Mommy juice = 2 Buck Chuck's

FUN to come

Dear friends, neighbors and strangers,  

This year is going to be #FUN,
if I have anything to say about it.

I'm planning some unique events and opportunities: 

Performances, book readings, photo shoots, workshops, dinners and then some.

Some will be of interest to my media, journalism,
photography and creative colleagues,
but most will be geared toward folks who
may or may not do any of that stuff.

 If you want to hear more via email, sign up here.

Keep warm,

Karen Kring

Grandma and 5-year-old in Florida

This in from Kate Schott.

I met a sweet (all alone, barefoot, mismatched pajamas) 5-year-old last night in a McDonald’s bathroom off a highway somewhere between Disney World and Miami Beach.

Grandma was in the restaurant having a meltdown, because the child had run away from her to go to the bathroom.

“I can’t handle this! I’ve got two babies to look after!” The other baby was in the stroller holding an empty bottle and crying.

Grandma continued to shout every once in a while when we were all back in the restaurant. I’m guessing drugs or severe mental health issues played a role here too. But the stress of taking care of kids is real, too. All parents know it.

I told her I would help. I told her I’m a mom, too. Five-year-old sat with us and we chatted. I learned that they lived in the Motel 6 down the street with Mom and Grandma. There was a Dad, but he’s not around anymore.

I wanted to ask more questions, but I didn’t. I wanted to help more, but all I could do right then and there was help Grandma by watching over 5-year-old for a few moments.

This story doesn’t have some grand happy ending. I’m not going to ask you to donate money or vote one way or another. What I am asking you to do is think about how you can alleviate poverty in your corner of the world. I promise it will improve your life and an entire community. Every little bit counts. We do it by talking to our kids about poverty (and drugs and education and mental health).

A few weeks ago my daughter and I researched charities in Chicago that would allow 8-year-olds to volunteer. We are so excited to work with Lakeview Pantry when we return from Florida.

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Kate Schott lives in Chicago’s Lakeview neighborhood with her husband, two children and four feral cats. She believes that we all have a responsibility to care for underserved populations—be they animals, neglected children or homeless adults. She served as a writing coach on one of the PICTURE THIS Projects project I also worked on. She previously worked as a communications consultant and loves yoga, bourbon and meeting new people.

What is your Big White Truck?

by Gale West

Happy New Year!

As 2018 is upon us, I am so grateful to be alive. I’d like to share the insights I’ve acquired from my encounter with a big white truck. Hopefully, you will find some inspiration for the coming year.

As some of my friends know, I was in what could have been a fatal accident in France three months ago. I was a passenger in a car that was hit broadside by a big white delivery truck at 60 miles an hour. The broken bones have healed. While at the time this didn’t feel like a gift, as I look back, it was definitely a gift.

I worked with a shaman many years ago who was convinced that one could not fully embrace being alive until you faced your death. I remember coming home after the accident and looking around my apartment thinking, “What would it be like if I never came back? As people went through my things, my journals, what would they find? Who would they see?”

Then, the bigger question one asks when one looks death in the face, “What really matters? All the things I've angst over, my regrets, my doubts, my frustrations, do they really matter?”  The answer was a big NO!

As a result, the questions that are now calling me are:  How do I bring more moments of joy, connection, beauty, and lightness of being into my every day existence?  How do I honor the dreams that are still whispering in my heart?  If not now, when?

There is a relaxed urgency that permeates my days. It feels like an exciting adventure filled with grace and blessings.

At times in our lives, our own big white trucks necessitate a cause for pause. Be it the death of someone close, an accident, being fired or the many other iterations of the big white truck experience. At the time they can feel like crushing blows, but then, ultimately, an invitation to stop and ask the question, “What really matters?”

I spoke to someone a few weeks ago, asking him about his big white truck. He paused for a moment and then shared an experience of being in Nicaragua. He had become friends with four families who were living together in a little shack. One of the women had a small business making tortillas.  She gave him some of the tortillas she had made. When he offered to pay, knowing her circumstances and wanting to help, she refused his money saying, “You are my friend.” He was struck by her incredible generosity when she had so little.  He came back to Chicago and began looking around at all the things he had accumulated realizing it no longer had the same meaning as before. He is still pondering the question, “What really matters?” So far, the answers have been profound and life changing.

What is your big white truck? What really matters? What dreams are still whispering in your heart? If not now, when?

May you give yourself the gift of lingering in moments of joy and delight.

Monet's Garden

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Gale West is a healer and coach to businesses and lives. She helps clients transform their personal relationships to money and success through workshops, retreats and breakthrough coaching. She has taught business, entrepreneurship and leadership at universities, both in the states and in China.

Gale has been trained and certified in hypnosis, Internal Family Systems, Hakomi, and Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and other transformative modalities. She is a teacher and certified consultant in the Akashic Records with a global following for her consultations and classes.
 

Gale's passions are swimming, grand adventures and bringing out potential wherever it lies.

She lived in China for close to 5 years, but now dwells a 1/2 block from Dempster in Evanston.